你就羞羞惭惭地退到末位上去了。

Then, humiliated, you will have to take the least important place.

Lawless说道：“一个人在他的有生之年洗净越多的罪恶，比如通过惭悔，行善等等，那么他死后在炼狱里的时间就越少。”不管是为你自己还是为你家人。

"The more SINS purged in one's lifetime (through penitence, good works, etc.) the less time needed in purgatory — for either oneself or one's family," she said.

在布朗的研究中，她发现男人和女人最容易自惭的不只是那些令他们颜面扫地的倒霉事，还有超强的察觉批评的能力。

In her research, Brown found that the men and women who were the most resilient to shame not only knew what brought them down but also had stellar critical awareness skills.

The twenty-five years I have lived since then tapered to a palpitating point and vanished. This is a remarkable passage to me.

那以后生活的二十五年，就惭渐缩小成一个颤栗的点,以致终于消失了，这个段落非常值得注意。